Friday, February 4, 2011

Valentine's Day

Q: What do you do for your man for Valentines day?? I need some serious suggestions.

A: First, I must confess I've always loved Valentine's Day. Even when I was single, I loved the possibility of a secret admirer and I loved both giving and receiving cards. Have I ever mentioned how I'm a HUGE card-girl? It's right up there with flowers in my book, in fact, it often trumps flowers. Then I found that special someone and we got married and suddenly Valentine's Day lost it's charm for me. My husband never made a huge deal out of Valentine's Day, often forgetting about it completely and I felt like I was "selling-out" to the card companies by celebrating Valentine's Day. Besides, I wanted the good gifts on our special day - our anniversary. We are coming up on our 5th year anniversary and I suddenly realized, I love Valentine's Day and my husband better get me a card or make me dinner or something! So, I informed him of this, how Valentine's Day is important to me (really, every holiday is important to me) and how I wanted to celebrate love. He smiled (he thinks it's cute how I get excited about even the smallest of holidays) and I found that once again I'm excited about Valentine's Day.

With that confession off my chest, here are my ideas:

First, I like to keep it small and personal. A little reminder to my husband how much I appreciate and love him. I save the big stuff for birthdays and anniversaries.

1. A card. A well-picked out card can set the mood, express your desires and thoughts, and can be kept as a constant reminder. Whether it be funny, sexy, or out-right sappy, in my mind you can do now wrong with a card (homemade or bought).
2. Dinner - Make his favorite meal or better yet, order-in. Put the kids down a wee-bit early, pick up food from your favorite restaurant, light some candles, turn down the lights and enjoy a quiet dinner together.
3. A letter - I know a couple who writes letters to each other every Valentine's Day. Cute, sincere, and you can start a little journal out of the letters for future posterity.
4. Sporting event - does your spouse like basketball? hockey? A babysitter, a couple of tickets and you're out on a hot date doing something he loves. A little pinched for money? No problem, put the kids down, pull up two chairs in front of the TV, pop some popcorn, make some hot dogs and pretend you're at the game.
5. Fondue night - chocolate, strawberries, marshmallows, candle light - need I say more?
6. Lipstick on the mirror - leave him a note in bright red lipstick for him to read first thing in the morning.
7. Get a babysitter and go out for dessert.
8. Reenact your first Valentine's Day together.
9. Think of what your husband likes to do - play video games, watch sports, play board games, eat food, and then do it with him. Just as long you're doing it together.
10. Last, but not least - buy some sexy lingerie and let him "unwrap" you... after all, we all know what our husbands really want... ;)

My tips: keep it simple, try to make it as personal as possible, do something he loves, and throw your own style into the mix.

Let's hear it. What fun things are you planning for your sweetheart this Valentine's Day?


  1. My hubby and I have NEVER done anything for any special days since after our honeymoon. There has always been some reason why. In face, I've only recieved flowers 2 times in our marriage, neither at V-day. Now, this doesn't make my husband awful or unloving, it's just that he, along with all the other menfolk that share his genetics, have not a single romantic bone or gene in their bodies. They are indeed clueless. I think my cute hubby used up every ounce of romance he could muster before we got married. :) It makes me laugh to think about though.

    So this year I decided I'm taking things into my own hands. Since we may not be together on our 5th anniversary this year and I'll be 6 months pregnant, I decided this Valentine's Day would be our big event.

    With that said, I bought a new dress, a new "nighty" and set up a friend to sit the kids overnight. I got us a nice hotel and we're gonna go to dinner and spend our first night just the two of us since we've had kids. I've even got some sparkeling cider to top it off. :) I'm just hoping he'll enjoy the evening. Boy am I excited!

    I really like your suggestion to write letters each year. Who knows, maybe I'll impliment that somehow, maybe for our anniversary instead. :)


  2. I'll be honest, in my marriage, my husband is the more romantic one. He is so sweet and loves to treat me right. I don't think we're doing anything much this year, though. Kit and I love "date night in". We actually try to do that fairly frequently. We haven't been out on a date for over a year, but staying in and just eating dinner together is fun. Maybe I'll be the sweetie this year...

    One thing Kit has done a few times for me is make up a song list (I actually did this first, but he has definitely put mine to shame!). He has made up a cd/song list of songs that remind him of different times in our lives (dating, engaged, newlyweds, now) and a list of songs of a more sexy know ;). I have given him a cd of songs that have always reminded me of him and his traits and songs that just make me think of him and our life. He has written me letters. Oh, I did do a couple of cute things- Once I bought him a big desk calendar and wrote him notes-things I thought about him and memories I have of him every other day. I had to be creative and quite a few were silly, but it made me smile. I also put together a set of note cards of my favorite memories of us together. I don't know if he appreciates the "romantic" aspect of VD like I do, but he is always good to do it for me.

  3. What great ideas! It seems like money-tightness causes V-day to get smaller and smaller each year. I'm planning on possibly making a nice (for 2, not 5) dinner or something this year. Probably no date for us, but that's ok.