Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Women Seek Revenge

Anyone heard this story? A married man in Wisconsin was cheating on his wife with at least five other women. The wife found out and instead of getting upset with the women she called them and let the know what was happening - that her husband was a scumbag. She recruited three of the women to help her plot revenge. One of them lured the man to a hotel, convinced him to be tied to the bed and blindfolded for a "massage" then texted the other women to let them know all was ready. They then abused, superglued a sensitive part of the man's body to his thigh, and took off with his cell phone, car and keys. The man and offending appendage are alright, however, all four women are being charged with sexual degradation and the man has become the victim. (For the complete story click here). Is this right?

I know I laughed when I first heard the story, felt a little pity for the man, and then got to thinking. This man not only betrayed and conned over five women, he broke a legally binding contract with his wife. My understanding is that when a man and woman are legally joined together in matrimony they essentially sign an understanding stating that they will be faithful to each other. While this may not show up specifically on the Marriage License it is exchanged in the vows they make to each other. How come, when these vows are broken, there are no legal actions to be taken short of divorce?

My question is this: if a man or woman cheat on each other in the bonds of marriage should there be legal action taken? At the very least the couple should enter counseling, or the offending party should take some kind of "control your hormones" course, kind of like anger management. When there is spousal abuse the law can step in, so why not step-in when there is infidelity (which could arguably be a form of abuse)? What do you think?


  1. Oooo, that's a tricky one. Poor guy...but even poorer women! While I understand the logic behind your suggestion, I'd have to disagree. As things now legally stand, you don't actually have to agree to be faithful in the marriage ceremony. If I remember correctly, you can pretty much say whatever you want to each other, as long as you sign on the dotted line. So, while the marriage license is a legally binding contract, there really aren't any legal promises attached to it.

    As to whether there *should* be legal promises attached...I don't know. I think it'd have to be something people would agree to in writing ahead of time, and made fully aware of the consequences of their unfaithfulness.

  2. The other part of the story is that the ladies were let off on a paltry $500 bond. It was almost as if the Judge in this case was condoning the actions with a "slap on the wrist". It's not every day the women turn the tables on a man like this, thus the newsworthiness of the story. I think two wrongs don't make a right, but sometimes it gets close.

  3. Okay, I chuckled at this man's poor plight, but...the loser kinda deserved it!! BUT...I actually agree with both previous posters. It isn't part of what you promise (although in spirit, it is) and IF it was written say as the pre-nuptial agreement, then legal recourse could happen. Sigh...too many losers out there who can't control themselves...